Typically, when people get married, they do so because they want to enter a monogamous relationship with just one person. However, California native Alexis Watts and her husband have chosen a more non-traditional route in the handling of their relationship. On the surface, they look like any other happily married couple. Alexis has been married to her husband Christopher for over four years. More than that, both Alexis and Christopher have four children together. Alexis loves her husband and children very much, and she’s also pregnant with another baby coming soon.
A Different Kind of Family
But there’s one more person in Alexis’s life that hasn’t been mentioned yet who is very dear to her, and that’s her boyfriend. That’s right. Despite the fact that Alexis has been married for over four years, she has a boyfriend who she maintains a very close and intimate relationship with. Now, it’s not rare for married couples to engage in extra-marital affairs. But it is rare for married partners to openly disclose their extra-marital affairs with their spouses in the way that Alexis has. Christopher is fully aware of the existence of Alexis’s boyfriend and she claims that it has even strengthened her marriage. To add to that, Christopher also actively dates other women while being married to his wife.
Making Things Work
The couple claims that their marriage works because they always know how to set their priorities. At the end of the day, even though the two of them can have their extra-marital affairs, they know that their primary loyalties always lie with their family, especially with the children. They make it a conscious point to always take care of each other and address their family’s needs before anything else. From that mutual understanding, the two are able to form a rather non-traditional union that seems to be going strong up until today.
Alexis had already been previously married, but that relationship didn’t pan out as well as she liked. She was in a toxic marriage that almost completely destroyed her views on love and relationships. She had always claimed that something felt like it was missing. So, when she met and fell in love with Christopher, she decided that it was okay to adopt a renewed perspective on marriage and relationships. That’s when the two of them discussed the idea of polyamory.
Talking It Out
“I started swinging and met my husband where we spoke about polyamory and it was like magic, it just made sense,” said Alexis in an interview with The Daily Mail. Alexis has gotten used to the shocked faces and occasional disapproval of certain people who learn about the dynamics of her marriage and relationship. She also stresses the point that a lot of people just don’t understand what polyamory is and how it’s more than just wanting to engage in purely sexual escapades with other people.
“We get jealous, we’re human and it’s a natural emotion. It doesn’t have to be a bitter and defensive emotion, it’s how you deal with it that’s important,” she explains. “It’s made us grow as we learn how to communicate around it. It’s essential to identify what makes you jealous and what you need from your partner. It’s quite therapeutic.”
Regardless of what other people may think, Christopher and Alexis seem to have a thriving relationship. And it doesn’t look like they’re going to let anyone else’s comments or disapproval change that.
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Original story by The Daily Mail